Healthy, consensual sex is a good thing. Everybody can agree on that. And everybody – on the train ride home, at the office, out for a stroll, in a restaurant, at the gym, a dinner party, or bar – everybody, glances at a hot, sexy passerby in these moments, and thinks: "What if I could fuck them?". It's pretty much basic human nature to think that, and of course it's superficial – a wild, fleeting thought - but we all do it. There are some people, though, known as 'sluts', male and female, who try to act upon this. For some reason, though, they're shamed because of it.
I never understood why having lots of sex with lots of different people in a safe, mature and consensual manner, is a bad thing. The term 'slut', too, seems a little archaic in this age of social media, Internet connectivity, and apps like Tinder. It's a very modern, youthful inclination to want meet somebody and simply have fun. Whatever that 'fun' entails is entirely the private business of the consenting adults who choose to partake. It seems ludicrous that a person, party or group, has the arrogance to judge another's sexual exploits, when simply put, it's none of their business, so why should they care?
People seem to be committing less in relationships these days, and with the more acceptance society shows upon lifestyle choices such as polygamy, we must be in the last days of 'slut-shaming'. As mentioned before, it is archaic, a culturally hereditary problem which stems from a bygone era's perception of being dignified and respectable. We live in a more individualistic society, however, that sees both men and women as independent, and self-sufficient. In all walks of life, people are encouraged to think for themselves and pursue their dreams, so why can't it cross over to sexuality? People are encouraged to experiment and think outside the box, and that should apply to sex lives as well.
There is ample joy found in sleeping with lots of people, and it is more than just a quick, shameless shag. Meeting people at their most vulnerable – someone who may be a complete strange – is acquiring knowledge, learning about a human's strengths, weaknesses, passions and quirks. Instead of these negative connotations of 'he sleeps around a lot, what a stud', or 'she's a slut because she fucked everyone at the bar', it is the writer's opinion that a positive twist, an interest in these exploits, should be discussed openly. What did you learn? Was it fun, scary, awkward, amazing? Real human interaction can become a meaningful thing. Embracing promiscuity, instead of 'slut-shaming', is a thing that should start happening soon.
By guest writer Charlie Hayley
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